By Robert J. Sternberg
During this groundbreaking paintings, Robert Sternberg opens the e-book of affection and exhibits you the way to find your individual story--and find out how to learn your relationships in a complete new light.
What attracts us so strongly to a few humans and repels us from others? What makes a few relationships paintings so easily and others burst into flames? Sternberg supplies us new solutions to those questions by way of displaying that the type of courting we create depends upon the type of love tales we stock within us.
Drawing on broad examine and interesting examples of genuine undefined, Sternberg identifies 26 sorts of love story--including the delusion tale, the company tale, the collector tale, the horror tale, and plenty of others--each with its designated merits and pitfalls, and plenty of of that are clashingly incompatible.
These are the principally subconscious preconceptions that advisor our romantic offerings, and it is just via changing into conscious of the type of tale now we have approximately love that we achieve the liberty to create extra satisfying and lasting relationships. so long as we stay oblivious to the position our tales play, we're more likely to repeat an identical error time and again. however the enlivening excellent news this e-book brings us is that even though our tales force us, we will revise them and discover ways to pick out companions whose tales are extra appropriate with our own.
Quizzes in every one bankruptcy assist you to work out which tales you establish with so much strongly and which practice on your associate. Are you a visitor, a gardener, a instructor, or whatever else completely? Love is a Story exhibits you ways to determine.
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During this groundbreaking paintings, Robert Sternberg opens the ebook of affection and exhibits you ways to find your individual story--and how you can learn your relationships in a complete new light.
What attracts us so strongly to a few humans and repels us from others? What makes a few relationships paintings so easily and others burst into flames? Sternberg supplies us new solutions to those questions by means of displaying that the type of courting we create depends upon the type of love tales we supply within us.
Drawing on wide examine and interesting examples of actual undefined, Sternberg identifies 26 kinds of love story--including the myth tale, the enterprise tale, the collector tale, the horror tale, and plenty of others--each with its special benefits and pitfalls, and plenty of of that are clashingly incompatible.
These are the mostly subconscious preconceptions that advisor our romantic offerings, and it is just through turning into conscious of the type of tale we have now approximately love that we achieve the liberty to create extra pleasing and lasting relationships. so long as we stay oblivious to the function our tales play, we're more likely to repeat a similar errors many times. however the enlivening excellent news this ebook brings us is that although our tales force us, we will be able to revise them and discover ways to pick out companions whose tales are extra appropriate with our own.
Quizzes in each one bankruptcy assist you to determine which tales you establish with such a lot strongly and which practice in your accomplice. Are you a visitor, a gardener, a instructor, or anything else totally? Love is a narrative indicates you the way to determine.
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The person who has broken matters off sometimes feels as though he or she is contriving reasons to provide an answer to why the relationship failed, not only for the partner, but also for himself. The person who was left behind may also feel this way. They are both correct. What they believe to be causes of the dissolution of the relationship are actually effects. We create reasons for the breakup, just as we once created reasons for getting together. The reasons are apparent rather than real. They may be that the partner was too demanding, or communication was not all it could be, or the relationship was not progressing, or any of a multitude of other reasons.
In a house and home story, the relationship is a means to achieving a stable and usually beautiful house and home environment. In a recovery story, the relationship is a means to recover from a trauma of some kind. In a religion story, the relationship serves to help one or both partners come close to God, or else the relationship itself becomes a kind of religion. In a game story, the partners want to win, in general, and the relationship provides a game to win. Coordination stories are based on the notion of partners working together to create or do or maintain something.
1 The asymmetry is in the attribution, not in any actual fact. Indeed, 49 50 LOVE STORIES the person labeled as the teacher may have little or nothing to teach, or what he or she teaches may be utter nonsense. Diagnosing the Teacher-Student Story TEACHER 1 I find myself in the role of a teacher in my close relationships. 2 I tend to find myself teaching my partners in close relationships a lot about life.
Love Is a Story: A New Theory of Relationships by Robert J. Sternberg